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Meet up with Cindy. Enjoy lunch at Swensen then HK Cafe for Hi-Tea. Cindy is now air stewardess. Envy her life flying here and there. She is going New York at her next flight. Can I have super power to teleport anywhere I want? She says it is nothing to envy of as anyone can fly too if they could afford air tickets. It is good that women should meet up with other women occassionally so that they can have some "lady talk". So, currently I have 8 ear piercings. After talking with Cindy, I felt so tempted to leave it back to one pair so that I can look more "Demure". Men looks for wife material should be those "demure" type. Then can bring home and tell their parents: I want to take her as my wife and grow old together with her. This is also important because of the impression you might give his parents. One day if my son brings back a women with many ear piercings, hair dyed, naval piercing and tattoos, I might go insane, thinking she is just a materialistic women, what type of grandchildren will she gives me? Even I myself condemn people with many ear piercings, how can I persuade people to accept me?Meet up with Yvonne. Watched Overheard. After movie, we had some chat. And I felt enlightened. Watching her was as if I'm watching myself in the past relationships. I'm not going to say there is right or wrong in a relationship as there is different points of views. One might look at things seriously, the other one might thought it is not important. That guy who lie to me that he have a girlfriend for 8 years, will marry her girlfriend of 8 years might just be a nice guy who dosen't want to hurt my feelings. Afterall, that girlfriend of 8 years might not even exist, guys his type just prefer women who are skinnier, whiter, taller and prettier, more demure, more ladylike more gentle. I would now thank him that he lie to me that he had a girlfriend for 8 years, want to marry her girlfriend of 8 years instead of telling me: SiLing, you are just not my type of women, I like pretty women with better figure. It was a mistake.Thank you Mr HET for making me realise that I still needs more experience in understanding men. I'm not being sarcastic. To speak truthfully, I really am grateful. Sometimes men create lies in order not to hurt women. But women still be angry anyway no matter if men lies to her, or tell her the truth.Women is difficult to understand. Even I myself also do not quite understand. Imagine a scenario which I think if one day would happen to me, I do not know how to react too. Scenario: Men have another women outside.Men: I have a mistress outside.Women: You bastard, why don't you keep it as a secret? I do not want to know, how can I be together with you anymore?If women found out men have a mistress and men is hiding her from the news.Women: You bastard, how come don't tell me so I can leave you earlier instead of wasting my youth? I realise that when a women just gets out of a relationship, she feels like storming straight to the guy and ask him: Did you really love me before?Thank you Mr Yellow. Guys will always says something like: I think you are too young, I think you are really a nice girl who can find someone better, I think we are really not compatible.Now, looking back, what he says is not serious, it is just entertaining you. It is just what guys always says when they want to get rid of women in a friendlier way. Now I realise, once a relationship is over, its over. No point asking for an answer, no more point wanting the real answer. No point telling him anything anymore. It dosen't matter anymore as ITS OVER. Its over, its over, its over. No point thinking and cursing, no point figuring out whose fault was it or whatever. Its over. All you can do is to reflect.Yes, when a women is just out of a relationship, it felt as if the world have crumbled down. She blames and she cursed. Once she heals when time passes, she sees things differently and eventually thinks differently. She felt wiser each time.When women is out of a relationship, she just wants to prove to the men that without him, she can still be happy and life is still great. But it is not. Men isn't clever enough to understand how sad you are. How heart broken you are. Men will never thought that you will cry yourself to sleep at night. The happiness she display is just fake. She will go shopping, go for movies go for karaoke singing with her friends. She just wants to heal herself, she don't want to be alone and she don't want to think negatively and feels like a loser. She can suddenly cut her long hair to a extremely short one, she can suddenly wears sexily, wear high heels and laugh loudly. But what she displays isn't what she's feeling inside. She just dosen't want the men to think that without him, life sucks. But the fact to her is, life sucks without him. But eventually, she will gets over it. Like I did.11.45am Wednesday 5thAugust2009